The problem with violence, and there are many, is it does not provide a solution. Never. Forget the Hollywood so-called hero who goes off seeking revenge. Numerous people are killed in a sad attempt for “relief”. He has found no relief, instead he has increased his haunting thoughts with ghosts and nightmarish images. For what you do to someone else, you in effect do to yourself.
Violence as a way of achieving racial justice is both impractical and immoral. It is impractical because it is a descending spiral ending in destruction for all. The old law of an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind. It is immoral because it seeks to humiliate the opponent rather than win his understanding; it seeks to annihilate rather than to convert. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Killing creates no heroes.
So is anger justified?
Anger demonstrates that the person expressing it has problems. The brain has been hijacked. The reason centers are located in the higher brain, the frontal cortex. Expressions of anger flow through the limbic system, and put us in a state of almost automatic responses. Anger hijacks our brain, our sense of self, the ability to make a sound decision and look at all sides of an issues. What do people report after episodes of anger? We hear statements like, “I don’t know what came over me”, “I wasn’t myself”, “if only I hadn’t done it”.
When it comes to anger it can prove helpful to its sufferer and society to see it as an ailment that can benefit from a holistic and integrative approach to treatment. Anger is a sign that healing is needed. Self acceptance is needed and the liver needs healing (re: angry liver in Traditional Chinese Medicine) and learning another way to talk to yourself. The first step as always is to take responsibility for your own actions. Avoid blaming others, such a s/he made me do it, or s/he made me mad. Once you begin to take ownership for your actions, solutions can come in.
Start with Small Steps
Practice being gentle with yourself, learn how to nurture yourself. Please also revisit this blog for continuing suggestions. One suggestion is to develop a practice being quiet and calm. Just watch yourself and start to see how you are being set off. You can remove those influences. Turn off the tv, the radio and remove your headphones. Well plug in the earphones and listen to calming music. Browse YouTube for music that you feel really touches your spirit. Gongs, bells, the sounds of rippling water all have proven health benefits.
Another practice is that of forgiving. In Buddhist teachings, ignorance is seen as one of the biggest core problems we humans have. We are all reeking in not knowing ourselves, the effects of careless words and actions, and action that is primarily self-serving. Only when you know better can you do better. This is not to condone ignorant actions but an acknowledgment that we all carry its weight in one form or another.
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